Coping With The Holidays
Posted by Kelli on December 21st, 2009
Coping With The Holidays
By Kelli Ellis
I am my own worst enemy. Like many others with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue, I find the holidays a highly stressful and painful time of year instead of the joyful and happy time it should be. I am too focused on the perceived expectations of others instead of the reality of my limitation and restrictions.. I know many of us want to accomplish what our bodies are simply not capable of, so we have to adjust our outlook and re-evaluate our priorities. The holidays are all about spending time with those we love most – keeping time and energy for what we hold most precious and dear. Doing so will help reduce the stress and thus the pain and emotional issues that crop up at Christmas.
Pace Yourself..
When you think “I’ll just visit 1or 2 more shops, go up 1 or 2 more aisles, wrap 1 or 2 more presents, bake 1 or 2 more trays of cookies or do that 1 or 2 more things.” – Don’t! Stop before you get to that tired or hurt point. Don’t deal with a fibro or cfs flare, prevent one.
Decorate, but not too much..
Have a smaller tree with few decorations. I have invited over the nieces in past and we made an afternoon of putting up the tree. Have someone put up the outdoor lights. Get a nativity scene that is pre-made as one unit and/or lightweight, so you don’t have to lug many pieces. I have a smaller plastic Precious Memories one (which the kids love to play with) and a small water fountain of Joseph, Mary & baby Jesus.
Celebrate
Choose carefully to go only to 1 or 2 holiday parties, don’t accept every invite. If you can, spend time with those you hold dear, not those who will cause stress. Plan ahead how long you plan to stay and stick to it. Always keep a supply of regular meds on hand, in case.
Delegate
Pass on some of the holiday chores to others so that while everyone shares the joy, they also share responsibility.
Cooking
Share these responsibilities or making an easier selection. Do a pot luck dinner. Choose a one dish dinner to limit the number of dishes. Choose easier recipies. Prep or make whatever can be done beforehand and refridgerate or freeze. Keep to your normal eating habits as much as possible & do not overdo it on sweets and other foods.
Baking
Do a holiday cookie/snack exchange. Bake cookies in stages – many recipes require overnight in the fridge. Cheat – buy your cookies.. I know, not the same, but nothing’s the same anymore, is it?
Shopping
Online/catalogs/mail order gifts. Gift cards & gift certificates. Plan ahead, make a list & write it down. Organize your trips into several short shopping trips. Shop in the morning, or later in the evening when the crowds are thinner. Start early – once I started on Dec 26th. Take regular breaks to rest. if you use a mobility device (cane, crutches, walker), take it with you even if you don’t need it yet Use a shopping cart for stability, to carry parcals & outterwear. Use a coat check if your mall has one so you don’t have to worry about your jacket. Get salespeople for help if you can find them. Always keep a supply of regular meds on hand, in case.
Wrapping Presents
Wrap using gift bags & tissue paper. Take advantage of on-site wrapping services – many are for charity.
Holiday Cards
Do them well ahead of time like October or November, Make labels so you’re not writing address after address, if even it’s ony the return address.
Above all – KISS! Keep It Sweet and Simple!
“I loved this book,” says Lisa Copen, Rest Ministries director. “And the back cover says, if you aren’t married to Jesus this book applies! We’ve all been on both sides of the fence… It’s a great eye-opener to tough questions the Christian community usually buries.”
When your husband or wife has a chronic illness there are many times that the relationship is at risk of breaking down in communication. We wonder why our husband copes with depression when the wife has the chronic illness; what happens when you have an illness and then your spouse gets cancer? And the lack of intimacy can threaten the strength of your bond, even when it’s due to chronic illness and health challenges.